Monthly Archives: January 2016

It’s Not Just You

Hey there. I wanted to take a minute to acknowledge something really important.

This time of year is really hard for a lot of people.

It’s not just you.

The beginning of the year can be really challenging. There’s a lot of pressure to feel joy around the holidays, to come up with some kick butt resolutions, to be in a relationship, to be with family, to spend lots of money, to have your dream career, to have found the perfect place to live… the list goes on.

I work with a lot of different people, and different types of people. One thing I can say is that you are not alone. In reality, a lot of people are dealing with a lot of drama with their families, with the loss of loved ones, with depression, break ups, divorces, dissatisfaction in their careers, and lots of pressure to do better and be better.

So, I just want to say, it’s ok. You are ok. Yes, the start of a new year can be a great time to start new projects, get back to the gym, start eating healthy, whatever. But any other day is just as great a day to start. You don’t need a resolution and you don’t need to be happy. However you are right now is totally fine. And however you are right now is not forever. Despite what it may feel like. Things do and will change.

Everyone struggles sometimes. Everyone has doubts. Everyone doesn’t want to get out of bed sometimes. Everyone worries that they’re not enough sometimes. It’s not just you. And that’s not to belittle your struggles. Only to say that you have a lot more in common with others than you know. Because of my work, I have had the amazing opportunity to be with people in some of their darkest times. People tell me what they would want no one else to know about them. So trust me, even when people look happy on the outside, they have their own internal battles as well.

With so much love, I just want you to know you are not alone. And if you feel alone, please reach out to someone. Over the holidays someone that I was good friends with in High School committed suicide. I hadn’t spoken with him for a number of years, but he was someone everyone liked. He was happy, kind, a good guy. I don’t know his story, and I don’t know yours, but I want you to know that there is love and good in this world. And sometimes you just can’t see it, but please trust that it’s still there, and it’s not just you.